Bitterness: Nobody Should Make You Feel It

People can easily ruin your life and make you bitter very easily .

They can use fear, negative attitudes, make you constantly insecure, make you constantly worry about things that are not worth it … and many other means, often even unconsciously.

This phenomenon is as common as it is inconvenient. With a little carelessness, you can instantly fall into a gray abyss of apathy and apathy, at the bottom of which there is bitterness waiting for you without even realizing it.

You will therefore have to learn to approach your own life and the world around you differently.

If only because of the fact that too often people tend to ruin others’ day or even whole life just because of their own failures, bad mood or just such a whim.

However, first you need to realize (and then remember it well) that bitterness means, first and foremost, the inability to derive happiness from the good times in life.

But before you openly criticize someone or yell at them with all your might that “all you are doing is destroying my life,” you should find some patience and openness.

You will need both of these characteristics to determine if the person who caused your bitterness is struggling with problems such as depression or other psychological or emotional ailments.

But if it turns out that the person is okay, and all their behavior aimed at harming you, controlling you, or blackmailing you is due to ordinary, down-to-earth motives (such as jealousy), then just stand up to them. .

Don’t let her confuse your life anymore.

We’ll look at this in detail later in our article, so keep reading!

Bitterness? Don’t let others ruin your own life

From now on, you should implement a completely new goal in your life: don’t let anyone else annoy you or make you even momentarily bitter.

It is high time to open your emotional umbrella to protect yourself from the harmful effects of people’s words.

People who try to cut your wings every time you try to get up in the air, who try to extinguish the flame of your dreams, or have a tendency to tell you every day that “you can’t do it” every time your mind screams “I want and I can”.

To achieve your goal, you can consider implementing these simple strategies outlined below.

I hear you, I understand you, but at the same time I protect myself from you

As we mentioned at the very beginning of our article, all kinds of negative behavior can be caused by bitterness, irritability, apathy, and even symptoms of an underlying but gradually developing depression.

• Reacting with anger or an ostentatious lack of interest may end up exacerbating the negative emotions driving the other person.
• It is best to try to listen to her calmly and to confront her possible arguments with your own, using your assertiveness and patience.

• If you feel that she needs help, offer her some strategies that will allow her to understand what is going on inside her mind and the harm it is doing to you.
• If the person is simply lacking in empathy and respect for you, try to open your protective umbrella and spread it over you.
• This will allow you to maintain a healthy distance from the other person and prevent them from having a negative impact on your life.

Bitterness will not be eliminated by even more bitterness

No problem can be solved if you answer one insult with a stronger one. Any fears will not die in the presence of even greater fears, and sorrows do not disappear as even more negative emotions accumulate over you.

If a family member, partner or friend has a habit of introducing dark clouds into happy moments in your life.

In order to bring your dreams and hopes down to the ground, you should not react with anger or outright hostility in such situations.

Doing so will not solve any problems, it will only increase your bitterness.

You should make every effort to become assertive and act intelligently in given situations.

Sometimes you can’t change the way people around you behave. Some personality types are simply designed to discredit, insult, and downplay other people’s desires, achievements, and aspirations.

The sooner you can reconcile it, the better, because it will allow you to act more logically. The solution is simply to skillfully build defensive walls and other security than trying to change someone’s character.

The latter is too often just like fighting windmills.

Some key aspects to combating bitterness

Rafael Santandreu is a psychologist who, through his books such as The Art of Not Being Bitter, shows us that all kinds of life problems that may arise at one point or another are usually the result of only the wrong approach is used.

And more broadly, their immediate cause is simply a lack of adequate knowledge, supported by hasty actions, reactions, and thoughts.

Value yourself

One way to effectively manage these inappropriate responses would be to simply learn a few basic laws. Thanks to them, it would be easy to remove bitterness.

You only have to try to find out that the strategies described below are really easy to remember and to implement in your daily life.

• Try not to complain too much or to complain about everything. Instead of lamenting about various bad developments or shortcomings, just try to appreciate what you have or solve all those problems that are bothering you.
• Using the concept used by this psychologist, it is enough not to see your life in darker colors than it is today. People have a rather bothersome habit of repeating phrases like “if I quit this job everything will fall apart” or “if he leaves me, I will die of grief.”
• Although you may not know it yet, it doesn’t take much to be happy in life. Try to appreciate all the little things that surround you.

• Watch your inner voice. Sometimes it can turn out to be your worst enemy.
• Don’t demand anything from anyone, and don’t expect everything from others.
• Love yourself unconditionally and be able to accept those around you for who they are and what they are. I love them by showing them respect as much as you respect yourself.
• Use laughter to fight the chaos around you. If someone is determined to pull you down with him, react to it with humor rather than aggression.

Finally, just remember that it’s not worth letting anyone else use all these dirty tricks. Their goal is to take control of you. You are stronger than them.