Raising Children – A Better Example Than The Lecture
As a parent, have you ever felt frustrated that raising children is too difficult for you? I guess every parent goes through this. And almost everyone makes one fundamental mistake.
We can all tell children how they should behave and express themselves. However, few parents actually manage to reach their children.
This is because raising children is not only about teaching, but also about setting a good example.
Raising children is not about giving lectures
It’s easy to tell children, “Don’t fold your feet on the table” or “Put dirty clothes in the laundry basket.” However, it is more difficult to follow these recommendations yourself.
The child, seeing that the parent’s behavior and words do not go hand in hand, begins to rebel. This usually leads to heated discussions and sharp exchanges of views.
This is especially true if the child asks the parent, “Why can’t I put my feet on the table when you do?” and in response hears the famous “Because I say so”. Such an explanation only makes matters worse.
Remember that bringing up children is not only about showing them the right path and behavior, but most of all walking along the same path alongside them.
Even if you are tired after a day and you do not want to take your clothes to the laundry basket, remember that a dozen seconds of effort can save you an hour of discussion with your child.
Children can see everything, and if you give them a good example of behavior, you probably won’t even have to tell them too often that they should act the way they do.
Children copy what their parents do and repeat their habits, words and reactions. Always bear this in mind when the proper education of your children is a priority for you.
Inaccuracies lead to quarrels
If you think raising children is difficult, be prepared for it to be even more challenging as they mature. Your “Because I say so” loses all power at this point and becomes only the starting point for further quarrels between you and your child.
However, you need to be patient and look at yourself with a critical eye. After all, your child is right to rebel against double standards.
If you demand something from him, demand it from yourself as well. Your children should listen to you, but don’t count on them being completely uncritical.
You will not regain it just by demonstrating your strength in the form of prohibitions or raising your voice.
The more calmly you solve any parenting problems, the more your children will respect you. And that’s the best way to build a healthy relationship with them.
Children, especially in adolescence, need stability and understanding at home, because inside they are already experiencing a strong enough hormonal storm.
Do not fight as equals – raising children is not a war
When a parent becomes impatient, they often resort to the same means as a child, such as screaming and even crying. In this way, it shows the child that they are on the same level and that the child’s behavior has a real influence on the parent.
If you want to set a good example for your child, don’t get carried away. Do not raise your voice and end the argument with the words, “You must listen to me because I am your parent.”
Even if you are burdened with stress and a lot of responsibilities, do not let them affect your relationship with your child and do not let them provoke you. This way you will earn his respect and set a good example for him.
Remember that you show love for your children by acting wisely and self-critically. It is an effort that shows concern for your little ones. After all, you want them to be well behaved.
Don’t waste valuable time with your family on pointless arguments and try to understand your child’s point of view. Thanks to this, you will not only help him grow into a good person, but you may also become a better person.
Show your children the best possible picture of yourself and they will imitate you.
