Breakup – How To Return To Normal Life After It?

For many people, a breakup  is a loss comparable to the death of a loved one. That is why it takes a lot of time, strength and support to fully deal with this personal tragedy and return to normal life.

Many specialists say that pain and suffering are close enough to mourning that there may even be similar stages of recovery.

A breakup can happen to any couple, regardless of their seniority or relationship status. It depends on such factors, as well as on what caused the breakup, how long you will stay with them and think about them.

Whether your relationship lasted 5 months, 5 years or a quarter of a century, one thing remains the same – you have to give yourself time to get back on your feet sooner or later and live on.

Why does parting hurt so long?

Why is it so hard for us to forget our exes? Why is it so hard to come to terms with loss? Is it a question of how we feel for the person? Is it because of a fear of emptiness and loneliness?

A breakup is usually the product of many different factors ; however, we are not always able to admit immediately that the fault was, in a way, on both of them.

Some people try hard to give themselves another chance and save their relationship, unfortunately quite often it is not followed by a real change or an analysis of problems that have already appeared in this relationship.

Without knowing what needs to be fixed, there is virtually no chance of a successful return. Sooner or later, another breakup is almost inevitable.

Below, we’d like to reflect on why it’s so hard to recover from a breakup. Here are the things that keep you from moving forward and starting your life again.

1. Emotional dependence

We even realize how many people among us suffer from emotional addiction. It prevents them from an independent, conscious and mature life, and they make their value dependent on whether they are currently in a relationship.

Very often the problem has its source back in childhood, when such a person did not receive enough warmth and love from their loved ones.

Emotional dependence makes it impossible for us to live alone. The breakup really means the real end of the world – we can’t really find ourselves alone. The fear of being alone is overwhelming and it prevents you from just letting the other person go.

When suffering from addiction, we may not even notice that the dominant feeling in us is not love, but fear.

2. Inability to endure failure

Let’s be clear – none of us likes to lose, at least most of us are not quite coping with failures. Moreover, we are also somewhat burdened with the vision of romantic, immortal love; we believe, or at least we really want to believe, in the love of the grave board that will overcome all obstacles.

Unfortunately, not every relationship can or must last forever. Some things come to an end sooner or later, and all we can do is come to terms with it and go on our way. Always think about it when something beyond your control happens.

Take a close look at all the emotional baggage that a situation entails and try to come to terms with failure. It does not mean that you are weak – but facing it is a sign of great strength.

3. A breakup is getting out of your comfort zone

Breakups are not only the dominant fear of being alone, but also a much deeper problem. It is associated with leaving the comfort zone, and everything that is outside of it scares and paralyzes us very much.

Imagine, for example, that after a long-term relationship that was everything to you, a breakup comes and you cannot find yourself in a completely new reality.

It’s normal to dismiss the thought that such an important part of your life has just ended once and for all. You only expect the worst of your new life. But does it really have to be this way?

Consider whether your fears and the paralyzing fear are not exaggerated. You may not even know that the future is just around the corner – maybe much more interesting and better than the past. Do not be afraid of change – this is the best thing that can await you after a painful breakup.

Sometimes we are unable to let our partner go because we are afraid of everything that the breakup will entail. It is a symptom of fear but also selfishness. The art of leaving the past behind is extremely difficult, but it is worth making the effort to be able to move forward.

Not always the person we thought was the one is actually the best thing that could happen to us. Sometimes, when stuck in a failed relationship, we may miss the chance for something much more valuable.

A breakup is not the end of your life, it is not the end of the world. It is only the end of a chapter, but also the beginning of something new. After all, no book ends with one chapter, right?

Turn the pages boldly and continue to work on the most important novel you create – your life.